We always think our jobs make us who we are. But we have the ability to change what we do, so we can focus on what we love.
Our job makes us miserable or happy. It makes us stressed or excited. Its something to help just pay the bills, or we use it to showcase or drive and ambition. Our job introduces us to longtime friendships or lifetime enemies. It prevents us from growth or pushes us to strive for greatness.
All of these reasons and outcomes are decided by you. You are the only one who has the ability to change the things that need to be fixed and strive to work to live, not live to work.
For too long we work the same position, saying that it is only temporary. We continually blame the job and never make the change ourselves.
At least this was the case for me.
I worked in the restaurant industry for over 15 years, always knowing and thinking that it was just temporary job with good pay. But the only thing that held me back from really pushing myself to find that career and true happiness, was myself. I was scared about failure and being told I wasn’t good enough.
Every time I complained to my therapist about my life stresses and the surrounding things that were really bugging me, it all boiled down to my job. I was stressed about the toxicity of the environment, my bosses pushing me down not supporting me and pushing me up. The continual battle with coworkers and management, that all pushed me to my unhealthy life choices, which just cause a spiral effect of negativity, stress and emotional upset.
I know I’m not the only one who is guilty of this. The go to work, it pays the bills, come home and complain and stress about how much you dispise it, then go back and do it all again. Restaurant life is definitely a hard one to leave. You’d get those weeks of big spenders and crazy money, and magically your forgetting about the time your manager snapped on you for his fuck up, while he’s a bottle of wine deep.
Realizing it’s time for you to jump out of that unhealthy comfort zone, is the hardest part. But it’s the most crucial and the only way to your overall happiness.
When you’re truly happy at work, it’s amazingly easier to be happy at home.
Those days of upset, anger and stress disappear and you can start focusing on things that make you happy and really start defining your life with whom you are, not what you do.
With today’s technology and easy access to career portals, networking sites and easy self promotion. You have the ability to reach out to anyone you want and research any position you may strive for. Why not apply for that job in Europe, you now have the easy ability to reach to more companies and more opportunities, all over the world.
In today’s employment, the job titles are so easily adjusted and constructed and positions are always adapting and changing. Create a position you think your skills can be beneficial for and reach out to that dream company. You’d be amazed how much you can do, if you just send out a confident email explaining why they need you.
So stop stressing about your job and make the effort to make a change. Whether it be a new position within the same company or something completely different. Knuckle down and make yourself happy, you deserve to be happy.